Can you describe what drives your work?
I am a survivor of rape, childhood sexual abuse and unimaginable trauma. I also live with a chronic illness (Endometriosis) which still isn’t classified as a disability – yet it should be!
To process my struggles: I create art. I write. I act. I model for erotic photoshoots. And I use my creativity to advocate for sexual liberation and other issues I feel passionately about.
Tell us about your 365 days of art therapy that saved your life?
Between 2020 – 2024, I lived with severe agoraphobia and was unable to leave the house. I genuinely didn’t believe I would live to see my 48th birthday. On July 17 2024, I committed to 365 days of art therapy in an attempt to heal my mental health. It worked. The results were so profound, I am now a full-time arts student.
What was it like being a columnist for Maxim, Penthouse, The Spectator and The Huff Post?
For 13 years, I was a prolific columnist and journalist in Australia and overseas. It was a blessing to have so much success with my writing in the mainstream media.
Is your erotic writing and creativity for real or is it a performance?
I call a spade a spade. My body of work is 100% authentic.
How do you deal with the resistance to your work?
I have spent half of my career in the underground and the other half in the mainstream. I am lodged somewhere in the middle. If you derive something from my work, that’s great. And if you don’t – that’s okay too. I’m not here to appease people.
What is the worst part about your work?
The average person is sexually repressed – so they project their inner turmoil on to me as a form of stress relief.
How did it feel collecting 1M downloads on your sex podcast?
My podcast is a labour of love. I am very authentic when I record each episode and it makes me happy to have reached that milestone.
Do your family support your work?
I don’t have a family.
My beautiful Mum, Dad and brother Damian passed away when I was in my 20s. Very early on I made the decision to never get married or have children. I have always been career orientated.
What are you most grateful for?
My late parents, Val and Des. I carry them in my heart every day.
How do you deal with the naysayers?
I’ve never allowed people’s opinions to limit me. I’ve always followed my own path.
Why don’t you discuss LGBTQI issues when you are openly bisexual?
Because being bisexual is only a small aspect of who I am. It does not define me. Also, I’m not a fan of labels and I have spent a lifetime transcending them.
Is it true that you used to solicit dick pics from men on the front of your website as an experiment?
It’s true. You can read about the experiment here.
What are your thoughts on cancel culture?
There is a great cartoon by the late Michael Leunig and it says:
WARNING: THIS IS AN INCLUSIVE SOCIETY AND IF WE THINK YOU ARE TALKING, THINKING OR BEHAVING IN A NON-INCLUSIVE WAY. YOU WILL BE EXCLUDED.
Leunig sums up the hypocrisy perfectly.
What inspires you?
I’m inspired by pornography, books, erotic art, sexual subjects, 1950s cinema, vintage, travel and traditional jazz.
Most cherished childhood memory?
I started at the Johnny Young Talent School (singing, dancing and acting) when I was very young. Training as a dancer and singer is one of the most joyful memories of my life.
Can you play any musical instruments?
I most certainly can. I learnt the organ, musical keyboards and music theory from the ages of 7 – 15. I want to get back to my music.
What’s next for you?
I’m an emerging artist. I don’t miss my old life as a columnist one bit.
Living with Agoraphobia is a debilitating experience and changes you as a person. I am on a different path now, heading in a brand-new direction. It’s so exciting!