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7 reasons why I love watching porn for the male gaze

There are plenty of women who LOVE watching porn made for the male gaze, we just don’t hear about them. But I think it’s time to change that. Isn’t sex-positivity about inclusiveness and the diversity of opinions? At least it’s supposed to be. 
 
If a woman has to tone down her sexual fantasies for the sake of political correctness. Well, I’m sorry but that is NOT equality. Women who enjoy porn created for the male gaze shouldn’t be demonised for their preferences – they should be accepted and appreciated without question.
 
Recently, I have been analysing why I LOVE porn made for men and after much contemplation, I was able to come up with 7 reasons.
 
I AM TURNED ON BY MALE SEXUALITY
I enjoy seeing extra close-ups of female orifices being penetrated. I enjoy watching semen being ejaculated into women’s mouths, vaginas and arses. I don’t need to see the whole person in the frame — they are irrelevant. I just want to get off. I love to watch women wipe semen from their chins and I like to see the shine on a man’s face after he has been eating pussy for an hour.
 
Women can be turned on by the same things as men, no matter what the puritans say. To assume that women need porn watered down for them is insulting and condescending. Whenever the male gaze is spoken about in an article, the words ‘exploitation’ and ‘degradation’ invariably appear. After reading one of these think-pieces, a person could be forgiven for assuming women lack desire and sexual agency. Well, I lack neither.
 
For as long as I can remember, I have always been a ‘giver’ in sex. I derive pleasure from making my male partners happy. Porn made for men is all about the male perspective and I find that appealing and arousing. It’s not a one-sided debate either. Many men watch porn produced for women because they are curious about the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of female sexuality. What’s the difference?
 
I HATE ROMANCE
There is a general assumption that every woman in the world desires romance and it’s just not true. I, for one, hate the icky-love-stuff. It makes my skin crawl. Yet women are bombarded every day with this superficial nonsense. Apparently this fictitious feeling/emotion is something we should all crave.
 
Porn created for the ‘female gaze’ regularly focuses on feelings, intimacy, body acceptance and cunnilingus. To assume that all women require these characteristics in porn is blatant sexism. I enjoy watching porn for the male gaze because it’s animalistic and is primarily focused on the ‘actions’ of sex rather than the ‘feelings’ of sex.
 
I DON’T CARE ABOUT STORYLINES
 Porn created for women is often focused on characters and plots, one supposedly acquires meaning and connection whilst viewing. Seriously, I could not give a flying fuck about porn narratives. If I want to watch something with a storyline, I’ll turn on Netflix. Pornography designed for men gets to the point quickly and without any sermons. This is perfect for my busy life and personal sexual needs.
 
I LOVE HONESTY
Porn produced for the male gaze is extremely raw and honest. It’s not trying to be something it’s not. It’s pure, unapologetic sex – in all it’s glory. I don’t consume porn to have an emotional or spiritual experience. When I consume porn, my only intention is to climax. Yet if women like myself don’t fall in line with the ‘feminist porn’ bandwagon – we are alienated, shamed and cancelled. But the fact is women are not a homogenous group. So why is it expected of us to have identical beliefs when it comes to sex and smut?
 
I LOVE WATCHING BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE FUCK
 It may not be politically correct but I enjoy watching porn that features conventionally beautiful people. Porn is about illusion and the unreal. It’s about feeling part of something that may not be available to you in real life. I have zero interest in consuming porn that is normal, relatable or realistic. I want something as far away from reality as possible. Porn for the male gaze is often stereotypical and that is exactly what my inner-slut craves.
 
I DON’T WANT TO BE LECTURED
Porn is meant to be fun. It’s meant to be an outlet. It’s a visual aid one can turn to when they’re feeling randy. But in recent years, porn has become serious. One almost feels like they have to justify what turns them on. I personally don’t watch porn to receive a lecture about equality, body image, female pleasure or consent. All I want to see is sex on screen so I can orgasm – nothing more, nothing less. Porn created for the male gaze supplies me with that.
 
I PREFER HARDCORE
One of the main reasons I prefer to watch porn made intentionally for men is that it’s more hardcore. I want to see women being fucked properly. None of this pussy vanilla shit!
 
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What turns us on is driven by so many things – our upbringing, our temperament, our traumas, our race and so much more. Pornography always comes down to one’s tastes – much like food and fashion.
 
Not everyone is going to be on the same page when it comes to turn-ons and turn-offs. But that’s why sexual diversity is so exciting. If we were all turned on by exactly the same thing, our sex lives would become fifty shades of beige.