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Say no to users, abusers and losers

I am an open-hearted person and unfortunately openheartedness is often perceived as weakness. A lot has changed over the last four years. I’ve done a lot of inner-work. Don’t get me wrong, my life isn’t perfect — whose is? But I have better tools to deal with unpleasant people and situations.

I believe the reason the universe kept sending me users, abusers and losers is because each and every one of them had a lesson to teach me. 

Users are people who only contact you when they want something. They may want your advice. They may want your support. They may want your time. But one thing is a certainty, after you’ve given them what they want, you won’t hear from them again. 
 
Abusers can sadly be work colleagues, supposed friends and family members. These kind of people always manage to make you feel shitty about yourself. They get off on bringing you down. Often emotional abuse cuts more deeply than physical abuse.

Losers come in all shapes and sizes.  They are generally low-vibe and after interacting with them – you may feel like your soul has just left your body.

I most certainly have no interest in telling others how to deal with these kind of people, I can only share what has worked for me.

Anyone that is ungrateful – I get rid of.

Anyone that is needy – I ignore.

Anyone that has questionable energy – I remove from my life.

Energy doesn’t lie.  If someone feels dodgy, they probably are.

We are all going to be dead soon and we might as well spend the time we have left with people who nourish us and make us grow.

I have a brand new circle of friends and acquaintances – people who are positive, people who are successful and people who support me. I will never go back to the way I was before. I had low self-worth and allowed arseholes to step all over me.

PS: Meditation has helped me too.