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Sitting on a man’s face is one of life’s greatest joys.

Because as the woman, you get to guide where you want his tongue.

The orgasms are different via this angle of cunnilingus. Not better just different.

I sometimes struggle with the intensity of orgasm when a man licks me out.

So I often ask them to use a spreader bar.

Or tie my legs apart.

This way, I’m unable to resist or choke them with my thighs.

Face sitting gives the girl more control. And you can ride his mouth as well.

I’ll be honest with you…

I was a bit freaked out by how ‘visual’ men are — when I first started having sex in my teens. I mean they want to look at EVERYTHING up close.

The folds of your pussy. Your arsehole. They want to see the insides of your soul.

It’s pretty confronting for a girl in the beginning or at least it was for me. I felt like I was a science experiment under a MASSIVE magnifying glass.

But there are also positives that go with men being ‘visual’ too. I’ve always had a sizeable arse and a little waist. I think that’s why I’ve always loved Marilyn because I can look at her figure and feel good about myself.

But being constantly bombarded with images of bags of bones doesn’t do anything for a girl’s self esteem. One almost feels ashamed for having the audacity to be a woman.

But men have helped me to overcome (pun not intended) my booty shame.

I feel a tad vulnerable saying this…

But men who are into arses, have literally asked me if they can look at my arse in different poses in the bedroom. And its fucking great for the ego, let me tell you! I think it’s increased with the popularity of the Kardashians, J-Lo, Amber Rose and Salma Hayek.

The only big question hanging over ‘face sitting’ is…

Is it best to sit forward, so he only has access to your cunt lips and clit, whilst you eyeball him?

Or is it best to sit in reverse? Looking at his legs and feet? In this position — he has full vision of your arsehole in all it’s glory.