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The sex toys I’ve used most during 2020

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Vanessa de Largie | Dec 22, 2020

I haven’t researched it but I’m guessing the use of sex toys by women (and men) would have increased in 2020 because of the pandemic.

I’ve  reviewed sex toys for many years and companies around the world would send me free products.  Before long, I had amassed hundreds.

When moving out of the share house earlier this year.  I made the decision to get rid of all of my  sex toys, keeping only ten.  

Today I’m going to tell you the sex toys I used the most during 2020.  But before I do, it’s worth pointing out that sexual needs change.

In my 30s, I was a size-queen.  

What’s a size queen?  A size queen is lingo in the sex blogger community, to describe women who love 9 to 12inch dildos.  Basically if I couldn’t use the dildo as a weapon during a home invasion.  I wasn’t interested in purchasing it.

I think it was more about ego than actual pleasure.  In porn women that can accomodate MASSIVE COCKS  are idolised by men.  They are considered hard-core goddesses who can handle any penis size. I wanted to prove that I was capable of being a ‘hardcore goddess’, so I did.  But I’m glad that sexual journey is in the past.

These days I’m more sensual. Below are the 5 sex toys I’ve used repeatedly throughout 2020.

I’m a BIG fan of the Satisfyer range of clitoral stimulators.  In my opinion, they’re the closest thing you’re going to get to a man eating your pussy.  


The Penguin Pro Satisfyer works via Air Pulse Technology, — it basically sucks your clit.  It’s 100% waterproof, which is an absolute must for me, considering 98% of all my masturbating takes place in the bath.  

It can be used by itself OR while thrusting with a  sex toy or penis vaginally.  It’s been my favourite clit stim for years.  My clit needs seducing as its hypersensitive.  This bow-tie-wearing penguin knows all about seduction.. !


Luna beads are weighted balls that you insert into the vagina like a tampon.  As you walk or exercise the weights inside the balls move– toning the pelvic floor muscles.  

Having a strong and tight pussy gives you more powerful orgasms, it gives your male partner more pleasure because the vaginal muscles can better grip the penis.  

There are two sizes of luna beads — small and large.  If you haven’t had any children, the small luna beads will be sufficient.  Women who have given birth often opt for the larger luna beads.  

I use my luna beads every single day.  I pop them in before I go for a walk or do a youtube video.  It is rumoured that in Japan, Geishas have such strong pelvic floor muscles that they can make kegel balls spin.  It may be a myth but I’ve read that in various literature.  

Luna beads have become trendy in recent years because they were featured in the Fifty Shades of Grey book.  I could not live without my luna beads.


There are wankers that exist in the sex blogging industry as well.  They tell women if they don’t purchase EXPENSIVE sex toys — they can’t live their best sex life.  This is utter bullshit.

Because I’m a sex columnist, I’ve been privileged to sample the most luxurious sex brands on the market.  But the fact is expensive sex toys are a luxury and not every woman can afford them.

Well I’m here to tell you, that I picked up this pink, knobby vibrator for $20 in a sex shop a decade ago and its still in use.  

It’s so ancient that its battery operated.  I don’t even know the name of the sex toy — but I’ve named it Thumper.  Because the hard knob at the end — THUMPS against my g-spot.

This toy has given me more orgasms than any $300 sex toy.  


There is a funny story that goes with this sex toy.  This dual vibrating massager (clitoral stimulator and vaginal vibrator) arrived by courier on a day when I was fucking horny.  Often when new sex toys arrive they need to be charged for several hours before use.  After ripping open the box, I didn’t even make it to my bedroom.  I plugged it into a kitchen socket and masturbated standing up near the microwave.  I prefer dual massagers to rabbits.  The BLENDED orgasms (vaginal and clitoral orgasms simultaneously) are so intense.  I have used this toy laying down but it best used standing up or kneeling and riding it.