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How to Last Longer

Maxim Magazine June Issue 2018 — Print column by Maxim sex columnist — Vanessa de Largie

Vanessa de Largie | Maxim Magazine | June 4, 2018

If your body is currently parked in the sack and revving up to go for some boudoir action, here are some quick, quality tips to fire up your engine and give you endurance for the long sexy haul…

A recent survey of nearly 4,000 people, conducted by, found that women (on average) want to spend just over 25 minutes in the sack. However, the survey also sadly reveals that Aussie blokes only last 16 minutes and 34 seconds on average putting them behind American, Canadian and British men in the sex performance wars. It seems some Australian men excel at a fast sprint while others excel at a long distance triathlon. So, how can you up your game in the bedroom endurance stakes? Read on…


Most men, at one time or another, ejaculate earlier than they would like to which isn’t usually a huge concern — but it’s a bonus if you can learn ways to control it. Jerking off before meeting up with a sexual partner may sound like a silly idea but what would be sillier is blowing a gasket five minutes after sexual penetration. It takes all men longer to climax the second time around — and you’ll be sure to impress her! So, clear the chamber earlier in the day and arrive at your sex session energetic and in top form.


The vagina may seem like a cozy spot to dump your junk but some added foreplay allows you to last longer. Foreplay will also help you to build the sexual tension which will hopefully lead to an explosive finale. Toys, oils, massages, fingers and tongues are all welcome during this fun state of play.


Any sex position such as ‘doggie style’ that requires full penetration is a big no-no if you’re trying to delay ejaculation. It’s best to opt for positions that create shallow penetration such as ‘woman on top’ or ‘spooning’.


Let’s not fool ourselves — fast pounding and deep thrusting is f—king hot. Unfortunately, it’s going to encourage ejaculation more promptly. For endurance sex, quieten the wheels and go soft and slow. It can still be highly erotic — it’s just not the wham-bam-thank-you-mam kinda sex.


No, not THAT kinda ring, a cock ring! These are designed to restrict blood flow allowing you to maintain an erection for a longer period of time. There are basic cock rings — which is what I would suggest you trial first. Then there’s a massive marketplace of cock rings that have all the bells and whistles including vibrating and beaded. Get online and do your research. Find out what is going to work best for you, your body and your sexual situation.


When you’re on the precipice of ejaculation think of something boring like paint drying, Australian politics or Malcolm Turnbull’s sex life. I assure you that you’ll last the full 25 minutes with those kind of thoughts in your head.


Condoms not only prevent sexually transmitted diseases, they decrease sensations in the penis which helps to delay orgasm.

Lasting longer in the sack is a common desire for many men globally, but before reaching for pharmaceutical drugs, creams and sprays, why not give these drug-free suggestions a test-run first.