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Please Spank Me!

Vanessa de Largie | The Huff Post | Oct 7, 2015

Nothing soaks my panties more than a good spanking. Well that’s half-true, except I don’t wear panties. But if I did wear panties, I’m sure they would be soaked right through.

I’ve been a no-knickers girl for 20 years, but this blog post isn’t about my underwear status; it’s about spanking. So let’s begin.

People love spanking for a variety of reasons. Some love it because they like to explore pleasure and pain. Others like the role-play aspect of spanker and spankee. I enjoy being spanked for a combination of reasons. I like to be dominated plus I enjoy the sting of a decent flogging.

Spanking can be used as a form of foreplay or it can be a stand-alone event. I have found that spanking during coitus can bring on the most powerful orgasms, I am talking serious full-body-holy-crap-orgasms that you will be talking about for weeks. The buzz-word is ‘intense’.

So let’s delve further into some spankety-spank. Below are some things that I’ve learnt on my journey through spanking.



Trust is incredibly important when exploring spanking with a partner. I always like to have a safe-word.


I have had the unfortunate experience of being spanked by someone that I wasn’t attracted to. It was incredibly awkward. If there is no spark to begin with then don’t add spanking.


When I am exploring spanking with a new partner. I lie on my stomach on a bed and prop a pillow under my pelvis, this naturally postures your buttocks for a good spank. Get your partner to start with soft spontaneous smacks, slowly working up to a smack that stings.


Once you get the hang of spanking, you can start to push your boundaries. Ask your partner to spank you whilst you are having sex and experiment with different positions. Buy a wooden paddle from a sex shop or get your partner to spank you with a brush or a whip.

Spanking has added so much joy to my sex-life and I hope it can add some sauciness to yours too.

Happy Spanking!