Cyber Love

Print column for July 2018 of Maxim Magazine, Cyber Love by sex columnist — Vanessa de Largie

Vanessa de Largie | Maxim Magazine | July 4, 2018

Cybersex, also known as virtual sex or cybering, is sexual arousal or orgasmic climax via computer technologies. Here are seven reasons why it’s “da bomb” and why you should participate regularly…

Cybersex can include porn, webcam, skype-sex, virtual adult games, Internet chat rooms, sexual instant messaging, sexting and the use of virtual reality equipment to have a good ol’ shag. Many prudes, PC-police and spoilers-of-fun are against cybersex — they believe it destroys intimacy, inspires adultery and is addictive and dangerous. They’re the same mob who also think sex robots are going to destroy the human race — need we say more.

MONOGAMY IS NOT A NATURAL STATE OF BEING

Much like porn gives the masses a buffet of dick and vagina without participating in coitus, cybersex gives the masses the opportunity for sexual arousal with others without participating in coitus. It relieves a pressure valve thus saving marriages, long-term relationships and preventing adultery. Monogamy is obviously not a natural state of being, it’s a forced structure created by humans. We are still animals and cybersex quenches our natural primal urges.

YOU WON’T CATCH CRABS

As fun as sex is, the excitement promptly descends when we get an itch in our pants or a foul-smelling secretion leaking from our anatomy. Cybersex is like a bulletproof condom – there is no STD getting through this fucker, it’s 110 percent safe sex.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT PREGNANCY

It’s virtually (pardon the pun) impossible to get preggers via cybersex. So much of the worries that come with sex have to do with procreation and this certainly takes the problem out of the equation.

SEXUAL CLOSENESS

Cybersex can make people feel more comfortable than they would in a real-life scenario. This can be due to social issues, physical issues, health issues, mental issues and disabilities. It can allow them to have a sexual experience with someone that perhaps they never would have the chance to in reality, which can lead to healing and build sexual self-esteem.

EXPLORATORY SEX

Many people are unable to explore certain sexual fetishes in their day-to-day lives for a multitude of reasons. Cybersex allows one to explore rape fantasies, BDSM and, on the far end of the scale, incest — if they so desire. It allows them to role play the sexual scenario in a non-judgmental environment with likeminded individuals without causing harm or insult to anyone.

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS

Often, due to work, study or life events, there will be times when we are geographically distant from our sexual partners. Cybersex allows sexual intimacy for couples who are physically apart, which can help sustain the relationship and keep it in-check during long periods of non-togetherness

FLYING SOLO

There is something to be said for the “instant gratification” in cybersex. Much like self-pleasuring or watching porn, then switching it off, we have complete control. I believe all humans, to an extent, crave this within our sexualities. Cybersex gives us something that is “our own”.

I am a great believer in sexual technology and think it benefits society in so many positive ways. Cybersex can be a welcome addition to a healthy sex life when used in a conscious and balanced manner. ■