Do you like to watch?

Maxim Magazine May Issue 2018 | Print Column by Maxim sex columnist — Vanessa de Largie

Vanessa de Largie | Maxim Magazine | May 27, 2018 | Online link

If you have a fetish for voyeurism, here are some ways to include it in your sex life with a consenting partner, friend or fuck-buddy…

According to the Oxford dictionary, voyeurism is the practice of gaining sexual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in a sexual activity. The term voyeurism is derived from the French word ‘voir’ which means ‘to see’. Many of us have gained ‘a thrill’ via accidental voyeurism. We may have walked past a house and seen people having sex through a window or possibly caught a glimpse of someone’s naked body without meaning to.

Intentional voyeurism such as the aspiration to become a peeping tom is against the law — one needs ‘consent’ otherwise it’s considered an invasion of privacy. However, it certainly doesn’t mean we don’t have voyeuristic tendencies within us — taking a peek when we damn well shouldn’t. A nude body in a change room. A couple shagging in a hotel room. A skirt that flies up on a windy day — we steal a quick glance, yeah? Our curious nature gets the better of us and we just can’t help ourselves.

Humans stay in control because it’s a learned act and voyeurism is considered by most to be predatory — but, under the surface, it exists in all of us. A 2007 study published in the International Journal of Sexual Health revealed that the majority of participants reported a willingness to watch an attractive person undress or have sex with another — if there was no chance of getting caught. I really don’t believe ‘slight voyeuristic tendencies’ are anything to be ashamed of, but in saying that I don’t think you should purchase a telescope or pitch a swag out the front of your neighbours window. So, here are some better ways to do so:

THE SEX TAPE

For all those exhibitionists out there, this one is for you. You don’t have to be a celebrity to make a sex tape — you can be a porn star at home. Make a filthy sex tape then watch it together at a later date.

THE SWINGERS PARTY

Swingers parties are so much fun and are becoming quite mainstream now. If you like to watch others engaging in sexual activity, this is the perfect place to be a sexual voyeur without being locked in the slammer.

THE MIRRORS

Mirrors during sex are awesome. One gets to see everything from all angles and there is a sense you’re being watched. It’s incredibly erotic and can really add some excitement to your sex life if you’re comfortable with your bodies and sexualities.

THE SEX WORKER

A consensual and safe way to explore the kink that is voyeurism with a partner is to hire a sex worker/escort. This way you can sit and watch the action and if the heat gets too much — you can join in!

THE EXHIBITIONIST

Exhibitionists and voyeurs are like a match made in heaven. Exhibitionists intentionally shag with the curtains open or walk around nude in a change room. Befriend one and discuss a mutually beneficial relationship/friendship.

THE WEBCAM

Webcam models are a voyeurs wet dream. You can sit back in the comfort of your own home by yourself (or with a partner) and watch people shagging, masturbating and stripping without being seen. It can’t get much better than that.

Sexual voyeurism can be a real turn on and when kept in-check, completely healthy. Just make sure the person you’re watching knows that YOU are watching and likes it.